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We have been back in Canada now for a week.  After being in very hot climate for over a month, I know I’m grateful it’s not 40 below.  The spring type weather is wonderful welcome home.

Both Sharon and I were declared awakened at the Oneness University in India.  It has been interesting to feel the changes within myself.  Out of all the gifts I received in India, the one gift that is most precious to me is the deeper connection I now feel with my divine.

The divine manifests in many forms to help us in our daily lives.  Our divine is always letting us know how very dear we are to the divine.  How we see our divine is how our divine responds to us.  This was a revelation for me.  Our divine is always helping us to be a better person.

As we look around us in our day, whatever we want to see will be there to support our seeing.  Whatever we want to hear or feel will be there to support our hearing and feeling.  For example, if I want to see kindness, kindness will be there to support my seeing.  If I want to hear or feel impatience, all I have to do is look around and it will be there to support my hearing and feeling as well.  We only have to become aware of what we are seeing, hearing or feeling and move forward from there.

People tend to use the words ‘lucky’ or ‘coincidences’ when it comes to expressing the good things that happen in their lives.  When we use words like lucky, we don’t see the hand of the divine in whatever it is. I know I was there at one point in my life.  What exists is only divine grace all around us.  The more we see how the divine plays a part in our everyday life, the more the divine grace showers us with its love.  Our relationship with our divine is personal and is changing all the time.  We can only start where we are.  My relationship with my divine was one of those areas of growth for me.  Life is about learning and growing.

I’m so looking forward to sharing the many things I learned in my journey to awakening.  You are welcome to put forward any questions you like…I will be more than happy to answer them. Blessings to you always on your journey…wherever you may roam…

Sheila Unique

How do you know?

What are we growing towards?  Consider this…we are continually growing and we are either growing towards being in a state of non-reaction/peace or towards being in a state of conflict.  How do we know?

When we are bothered about something, there is conflict…it really is that simple.  When we recognize there is conflict, how do we find our way to being at peace with it?  People may say they don’t feel they’re bothered about anything and yet they are going in for surgery next month….or work is suggesting they go for mediation around something…or their spouse is talking about hating their job and they find it hard to listen to the same stuff every day.  Those are examples of people feeling conflict coming from the body mind or spirit.

This past week, Sharon and I facilitated a telecall series on depression.  I had invited my daughter to submit some things that she felt were maybe causing her to feel depressed.  She thought about it and didn’t feel she had any issues so she didn’t submit any.

The very next day after the telecall series was ended…she called me.  She so wonderfully asked me to help her with her kids.  One of them was sick again and she just didn’t know what to do with the kids anymore.  She asked why wouldn’t this sickness stuff stop already?  The whole winter the kids had been sick in some way where they ended up at the doctors for something. As she talked I could just feel how depressed she was in what she was saying.  I asked her if it bothers her to have her kids sick again.  Of course it did!  I shared with her how there was such a depressed feeling there. Once we started talking, it was like a revelation for her and she could feel it.  My daughter was in a place where she didn’t ‘think’ she had any issues and got to a place where her kids were sick again causing her to ‘feel’ hopeless and depressed.

I had talked further to my daughter about what she felt depression was.  She had shared how she couldn’t understand how people could sit in their depression and not do anything about it. I’m not going to share the whole conversation but we did clear around an element of control that she was working with.  One of the things about depression or anything anyone around us is feeling….we can’t change anyone around us but we sure can shift what we feel inside.

I know for myself, I had felt I still had a depression type feeling around money.  I didn’t feel I could create money.  That feeling and more had shifted through the telecall series.  I have been walking through some of my money issues with this India campaign going on right now.  Yes there is conflict and the only way I know how to feel at peace inside is to take the ‘not so great’ feelings and clear whatever is causing them…leaving me in a place of feeling at peace with whatever happens.

Our day to day living brings us life stuff.  When we do anything and feel conflict we can grow towards feeling at peace around whatever is causing us to feel the conflict.  Those causes come from within us and that is where they will be resolved.  Energy clearing is definitely one of those ways to clear conflict.

You don’t need to know all the questions to ask….or even all the answers.  That’s where Sharon and I come in. One of the most important roles for you is to become more and more aware of what you are feeling.  Once you feel something…it’s on its way to being healed.

We are always rewarded for our inner work.

Sheila Unique

First Thoughts?

January 1st just past and I got to thinking of some ‘firsts’ for me this week…here I go.

We put a new sink in our kitchen.  The sink looks great on our new counter.  The FIRST time I went to do the dishes, I noticed how much more shallow the sink was compared to the sink we took out.  Not only was it shallow…it was rounded at the bottom which means nothing in my sink lays flat now.  Everything I put into the sink moves to the middle center.  It was so different from before.  My FIRST thought was who would make sinks like this?  They obviously don’t do the dishes.  Yes I was mad and very aware of my reaction.  As I was doing the dishes I continued to think – the next thoughts had to do with taking out this new sink and putting in another new sink.  That wasn’t possible at this time.  I then started to think a powerless thought where I was kind of stuck with this sink now.

If I couldn’t change the sink…I worked with the next best thing that gives me peace inside…I could change how I felt about the sink.  I did some energy work on how I was feeling about the sink.

Through that experience, I noticed my reactions…I noticed where I went with my thinking…I noticed a pattern in how I went to a powerless place inside myself.  This was for me, for my learning and growing.  I am more at peace inside myself today when it comes to my sink.

Another FIRST for me this week.  The other day, I was walking at our sportsplex facility.  This facility has an indoor walking track which I have been walking on for a number of days now.  This one day there were some young men walking on the track.  I could tell they weren’t there to exercise because they had their coats on.  They were looking around the facility.  When I saw them, my FIRST thought was ‘look at those guys…don’t they know there are people walking and running on the track?’  Along with my thoughts was the judgment of thinking they must be stupid or something?’ That may sound hard to hear but that was my first thought.

Along came a lady who was running in the lane those young men were walking in.  As she ran around them, the lady so gently said, ‘this is a track for running’.  The young men immediately realized where they were and got off the track.

Where was my learning and growing?  When the lady gently said those words to the young men, I wanted to find that gentle loving place inside of myself.  Where was that judgment coming from?  What was causing me to think those young men were stupid.  It didn’t take me long at all.

The Universe or my Divine so perfectly timed those people in my path for my own inner healing.  I immediately wanted to heal the conflict inside of me.  I asked to resolve this issue within me.  I know there has been a shift inside.  I was sure grateful for that gift of heading into the new year.

The word ‘stupid’ was one of the ‘sore spots’ for me growing up.  I often heard how stupid people were.  Those bothers around that word ‘stupid’ came along with me heading into adulthood.  I can now choose to resolve the effects of that word.    I’m working through situations in my life to help me be at peace around the word stupid.  That word has presented itself many times along my journey…and I will know I am finally at peace with that word when I no longer have a charge or react to it.  It’s getting easier every new day.

Sheila Unique

Depression in a new light Part 1

Over these last couple of weeks, I am hearing about many people in a depressed state.  Are there any people in your life going through a phase where they feel depressed or emotionally unstable right now?  Have you tried to help them OUT OF their situation?  Has it worked?

One of my older sisters is experiencing depression right now. Over the last couple of months I stepped forward to help her, doing some energy work and suggesting a couple of things I felt may help.  She is still struggling with depression.  I started to look at her as a messenger.  There was more to this situation than I first thought.  What was the message for me?

Every interaction with my older sister offered me the opportunity to heal something inside of myself.  At first I was ‘super woman/super healer’ in some way and tried everything I thought I could do, or suggest, to help her on her journey. Some of what I suggested was welcomed and some was not.  I stepped back and made the decision to leave everything up to the Divine.  The Divine would take way better care of my sister than I could.  I noticed how I got to the place where I could accept her for who she is and what she is going through without needing to change or fix her.  Was it easy…not at all!  The learning, growing and releasing was immeasurable.

As part 1 of ‘depression in a new light’, I share these words speaking from the point of view of our role in the lives of those around us.

How many times do we try to help others get out of their challenging relationships or situations and they just keep doing what they’re doing?  How does it make us feel?  What bothers us about the challenges they are experiencing?   Is it about changing and fixing the other person so we feel better?  Is it about being with what we are feeling in any moment?

Do we really know what will make the other person better? As much as we try to influence someone, we can’t change them.  They have to make the change themselves.  That change will come at the ‘best time’ for them for their learning and growing.  We don’t know what the Divine has intended for another person which can be very freeing for us.  Sometimes that freedom doesn’t feel so comforting.

With the people around us who are experiencing depression in some way, our role can be as simple as thanking the Divine for taking care of them. We can love those people for who they are and honour the choices they are making, even if it’s not the choice we would make.  Their journey is about them and our journey is about us.

There was an amazing saying on the Oneness University Facebook page, ‘If you wanted to change someone else, try changing yourself and you will know what it takes for a change. Sri Amma Bhagavan.’

I invite you to consider our reactions are about us and how we feel, not about changing or fixing others. If we are reacting, we are not at peace with something inside of ourselves.  When we become aware of our reactions, we are offered the opportunity to go inside and see what is there for us to grow through.  It’s inside of us where the change takes place…and it’s outside of us which reflects the changes we have made.  There is perfection in every moment.

In part 2 of ‘depression in a new light’, I will talk more about the state of depression…giving you a different ‘light’ on what can cause someone to feel depressed and how our energy plays a part.

Sheila Unique

Unlearning?

Growing up was a time of learning and growing.  We learned about family, communication, money, security, jobs, working…we learned many things.  As adults, we are still learning and growing.  Today, as we view the challenges in our daily lives, there may be things we learned that still make sense…and then maybe there are things that need to be unlearned.

When we unlearn something, do we forget about it, discard or erase it from our memory?  Consider this…when we learn something we accumulate information.  When we unlearn something, we challenge what we have come to know or learn, based on our current experiences.

Our feelings and experiences form our day to day living.  If something isn’t working for us, we can start to challenge what we are doing or what we ‘know’ in what we are doing.  This challenge isn’t about changing the world…this challenge is more about finding peace within us.

Allow me to share an example of something I became aware of in the last few days. It may assist you in moving through some of your challenges…or at least see them in a new light.

There have been some strong feelings come up lately around key challenges in my life.  Those feelings took me to a time when I was growing up.  There were so many times where money was a reason or excuse for not doing something. I heard about that over and over. It seemed if we were to do something, we would need money, and if the money wasn’t there we didn’t get to do it.  I remember days where we would think people were poor, having no money, and feeling that was the reason they couldn’t do things either.  I became aware of what I was experiencing with the people around me.  Was that always the case of not having money, or were there times when having no money was just an excuse or reason for not doing something?

As I look back on what I experienced, I now see how we did a lot of energetic ‘projecting,’ if I could use that word.  Energetically we held ourselves and other people in a place of having no money and not being able to afford to do things.  Now I can see how it’s time for me to unlearn that!  I am now aware of this life issue and the inner healing begins for me and my lineage. As people, things and situations show up to challenge my patterning in this process, I will heal around projecting and holding people in a place of having no money.  I’m already feeling more at peace inside myself and one day this whole thing will be a non-issue for me.

When you look at your life, where are you constantly struggling?  Is it around communication, rejection, money, relationships, weight…where is the struggle or the issue?  What are you seeing over and over again?  What may be in the patterning, if any, and what may you chose to unlearn? Part of the unlearning process is challenging what you feel you ‘know’ is taking place.  The Universe is so perfect in supporting us in ways we understand.

As you experience life, whatever you are experiencing is perfect for you.  Whatever you are seeing, feeling, doing and being is perfect for you and only you.  Your journey is about you…it is within you where you will feel the changes…and where you will come to find peace…regardless of what is going on around you.

Sheila Unique

Aligning Perfectly!

Every day I see the unfolding of perfection!  All of the situations in my life are being created for my own inner healing. Can you see how everything in your life is aligning perfectly for your own inner healing?

You bet there are times when things don’t feel so great, like maybe losing a friend or you don’t have enough money to pay your bills this month…and then there are times where you wonder how things come together so perfectly – almost effortless.  Allow me to share this example of what I’ve experienced and how it may open the door for insights into what may be taking place for you.

Sharon and I did our live radio show on blogtalkradio the other day.  We had a few minutes before the show and Sharon was telling me about her drive home from out of town, the night before. She was concerned about driving on the highway, in the dark, while it was raining. Sure enough just out of the city she was leaving, there was a coyote standing in the middle of the road.  She hit her brakes and the coyote managed to move off the highway without any problems.  She said in that moment she got to pay attention because there was 2 hours ahead of her…wake up!

We were chatting a little bit about how we ask the divine for help driving at night. I asked Sharon what was her message with the coyote?  She commented that she had to look in the book to see what the message is for coyotes.  I said, ‘what if your message was as simple as, ‘pay attention because there was 2 hours ahead of you…wake up!’  In that moment I was very aware that there was learning for both of us.

Sharon started to see how easy it is to give our power, our own inner knowing over to others, doesn’t matter who it is.  For her, she got her message and was very aware of what it meant to her.  I came along and in asking her, it brought up something for her about looking outside of her to see how she is wrong.  There was so much healing for her – and yes….all of this before the radio show even started.

Now what does that have to do with me?  Through being with Sharon that morning, I could see how there are times when I do the same.  Sharon was a perfect messenger for me – not only to see how I need to look inside for my own insights…but also for me to appreciate and accept that in others. On my journey, that is something I’m learning and growing through.  Life is a process and I’m so grateful to have someone like Sharon to learn with.

Are you in a place where you are resolving issues around controlling or accepting and allowing? The most important part is being AWARE.  When you are aware that you are controlling others, just acknowledge that because it is in that moment where you start to see how your habits and patterns come to life.  From there…the healing takes place.

If I could also add, just because someone says something, does not make it a global truth for every single person on the planet.  Be with what feels right for you.

Sheila Unique

Pushing and Pulling

Is it easier to push or pull something? If you were going to move a couch, would it be easier to push or pull it?  If you were going to get someone to do something, would it be easier to push them into it or pull them along?  How is that for questions today?

I experienced something this morning that really hit home for me.  A friend of mine was excited to share our next telecall series with someone.  I was listening and grateful for the sharing.  After the conversation I noticed the feelings that were coming up for me.

I could feel the wonderful energy in the sharing and I could feel the not so wonderful energy in how I wasn’t okay with the sharing.  To me, it was like one felt like a push and one felt like a pull!  This led me into more inner healing. Whatever wonderful energy was going in, I was pulling back on it!  I could feel the pulling back…wow.

Has this happened to you?  Where in your life are you pushing or pulling?  Maybe pushing someone to do something they don’t want to do; maybe pulling someone back from doing something because of a fear you have.  They want to eat something and you talk them into eating something different; they plan something that feels good to them and you tell them they could do it better another way.

At this stage in my journey, this is something that is being highlighted to heal within me.  What I’m talking about can be referenced as pushing or pulling…referenced as talking into or out of something…referenced as convincing, managing or controlling…it can be referenced as a number of things.  They all work with the flow of energy.

You will know you are working with the flow of energy when you try to make changes to people, things and situations when something doesn’t feel good inside of you and it bothers you. When something ‘doesn’t feel good inside of you,’ that feeling is different from something ‘not feeling right.’

Life is a process and our reactions are about us and how we feel. My reactions show me there is something there that bothers me.  From there I go inside and find out what it is I’m not at peace with.  When I shift those reactions, I no longer feel like I have to push or pull, talk into or out of, convince, manage or control…and that brings about a more peaceful feeling inside.  Everything just is.

Sheila Unique

Fix the family?

We just celebrated my mom’s 75th birthday. My brother and his family put on an amazing surprise party which included their own form of the Olympic games – what a hute! It was truly a success.

A few days later I was talking to my twin sister Sharon. In the conversation she said, ‘I didn’t go to the party to work. I went to the party to have fun!’ Those words really hit home for me. I knew there was an important message for me.

How many times did I go out to visit family and they shared the problems/challenges that were going on in their lives. I felt that I should ‘work’ on those challenges somehow making things all better. Over time I started to resent having to work all the time and believe me when I share with you…I totally lost perspective of what it was to just visit…to just be with them having fun and playing!

How are you with visiting and having fun when it comes to being with the people you love! For some people, getting together with the family comes with stress. Once together, family members decide who needs to take care of who and which family member is doing what. For other people, getting together is not an option because of all the fighting that has taken place in the past. Then there are the people who are content to visit family for a short time…taking a few minutes to make sure all is well and away they go again.

What is our intention when we think of being or not being with the family? When we call to talk to our family do we have a hidden agenda where we need something or are we interested in ‘visiting’ with them?

I know for me, I have journeyed to the place where I don’t feel I need to ‘fix’ my family. That is one way I know I have grown inside myself. I can now accept my family members without feeling I need to change or make them better. Everyone of the messengers in my family has taught me so much to date…and for that I’m grateful.

Sheila Unique

Indications of Inner Growth

Right now it feels like we seem to be going through a questioning stage again. What is our purpose in being here on earth?  Is it to make it through the days hoping everything goes okay?  Is it to work towards being a great person and then we are done? Is it to keep taking schooling?  I often talk about how we can get caught up in ‘what is our purpose…what should we be doing with our lives?’  How can we live more purposefully?

Consider this…everyday people come and go, things show up and situations occur. What purpose do these serve us?  Have you ever thought about that? What purpose do the people, things and situations in our life serve?  How come sometimes we have not so nice people to work with…how come we get speeding tickets when we seem to have no money…how come the government raises the taxes?  Everything happens for a reason.  Everything offers us an opportunity to learn and grow. What we do with those opportunities makes all the difference.

How do we know we are growing?  How do we know we are changing inside?  We learn new things everyday in our daily experiences.  Allow me to share, from my experience, some of the key elements I feel are true indications of inner growth.

Think of moments of time when everything felt so great like we didn’t have a care in the world….life was wonderful.  Now think of moments of time when we felt like our world was not so fun.  Those no so fun moments included moments of reactions.  Our reactions show us we have inner conflict of some kind.  We don’t like something or we don’t care for it…whatever it is we are bothered in some way.  Reactions are about us and how we feel.  We know we have experienced inner growth when we no longer react like we did before.  The changes have to do with our ‘reactions’ to the situation. What bothered us before, no longer bothers us…indicating there was a change in how we feel.  

Once the reactions are out of the way…there are additional ways indicating a change inside: 

  • The situation where we reacted before will not present itself again; or the next time it does, we will not react at all; 
  • If we can talk about our issue and our tone changed or we’re not as emotional as we were (in other words we didn’t react like we did before); 
  • If we learn from the experience and can see our role differently in how we can bring resolution, we are moving forward and there is change;

Change can also show up in the length of time our ‘reaction’ lasts.  If we used to get mad and stay mad for a week, we may now get mad and stay mad for a day or two.  Then one day the issue will be gone and we won’t even react. 

Changes are usually very subtle and we may even be the only ones noticing them which is why I share ways you can look for inner growth yourself!  Moments of inner peace transform into hours of inner peace.  This is one way of living more purposefully. 

Sheila Unique

Transformation before my eyes!

I feel I’m pretty good about recognizing when a transformation has taken place…this one happened right before my eyes.

Today I was sitting in my living room doing some energy clearing with my friend. I was aware I was mad about a number of things and wanted to clear through whatever was causing me to feel angry. Anyone would have known I was reacting. They would have ‘heard’ the anger in the words I was using to explain how I was feeling.

My living room faces a school ground and ball park area.  The city workers were busy mowing the lawn and whipper snipping the grass along the fence, etc.  When I first started talking in my session about what was making me mad, I looked across the street and the city worker on the riding lawn mower went over some big pieces of paper that were on the ground.  Once those big pieces of paper go through a lawn mower, they turn into lots of little pieces!  I noticed the riding lawn mower had a big garbage pail on the front of it.  I started to think, ‘what the heck is that garbage pail for if the guy isn’t going to put the garbage in it.’  When I saw that, I wanted to go outside and take a picture of all the little pieces of paper and send that picture to the city complaining about the mess they were making. Keep in mind, I was already mad and was very much aware of the feelings and thoughts that were running through me.  I expressed this to my friend who was working with me.

My friend asked me why that bothered me to see that.  I said, ‘no one was going to pick up those tiny papers and somehow they would blow across the street, landing up in our yard for me to pick up and put in the garbage.’ Did you notice the words I used…‘no one was going to?’  She cleared so much anger and shared so many points for me to feel the shift in my perception resulting in the shift in my energy. I felt the anger leave. My friend continued to clear the list of things bothering me and within 20 minutes…I kid you not…a city worker came along carrying his big garbage bag and one of those grabber type tools, picking up every little tiny piece of garbage and more.  I watched him take the time to get every little piece of paper…you have no idea what was running through my mind in that moment.

Those city workers were awesome messengers for me today.  The city worker riding the lawn mower confirmed to me I was angry and the city worker picking up the garbage confirmed the transformation had taken place within myself!  Yes, I shared with my friend what had taken place. There was a huge message for both of us.

Now that I’m no longer reacting like I was, I can now see with clarity!  I thought about the times I have mowed my own lawn…mowing over big pieces of paper and yes, turning them into little pieces of paper.  There are times where I don’t even pick them up!  Can you see the learning and growing that hasn’t taken place?  What a message for me today.  All I can say is I’m very grateful for recognizing my feelings are about me and how I feel, not about complaining what others are or aren’t doing.  The Universe was way too perfect in assisting me to walk through my anger.  What a gift!

Have you ever experienced something like that yourself?

Sheila Unique

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