It was something to watch how her story had created such unrest in the family. The children came to believe her story and had so much anger towards their dad for what they learned he had done. The story wasn’t even true. The unrest caused all kinds of problems – body mind and spirit – for everyone involved. Anger and unrest are reactions. Reactions highlight an underlying issue.

Do you ever get ‘lost’ in someone’s story or drama? Are people lost in your story or drama?  It can be really easy to do, especially if it is someone close to you.

Energetically speaking, when we hear people talking about what they feel happened or what they believe caused the problem, most people tend to believe whatever is shared.  People will say, ‘I have a headache because I ate too much chocolate.’ ‘I didn’t get the job because the boss likes the other person more.’ ‘We didn’t get the house because the loan’s officer doesn’t like to deal with women.’  Whatever the story is – is it the truth?

When you are ‘lost’ in the story/drama, and it doesn’t matter what it is, there is an aspect of you that isn’t found.  The daughters in the movie literally lost themselves in the anger the mother was experiencing. The daughters were no longer free to express themselves because of the drama the mother put everyone through…resulting in their addictions and health concerns. Have you ever experienced something like that…doesn’t matter what age?

How does energy play a part in all of this?  What you feel about something affects what you say and do!  What you feel affects your health and peace of mind.

Consider this….when someone first meets a person they know nothing about, they tend to approach this person with an open mind, so to speak. If they find out things about that person before they meet them – like how that person manipulates others or how they can be conceited – they approach the person for the first time with that information in mind. Will they treat that new person any differently? What do you feel?

Relationships are so interesting; they offer many opportunities to learn and grow.  When you are lost….the journey becomes about finding your Self again. It won’t be about anyone else but you and your learning. On some level we are all finding the truth of who and what we are.

I got so caught up in all the stuff about my dad and his smoking that I literally lost focus of what we were doing together as a family.

I used to talk about how smoking creates an energetic screen around the person smoking. As they smoke, a screen is there making it hard to see things clearly about themselves.  This is what I saw in the revelation.  The screen goes both ways!  If my dad is creating a so called screen with his smoking, if I have an issue with his smoking then I am creating a screen in how I am seeing him.  Am I seeing him for who he is or am I seeing him as someone with all kinds of bad habits?  When I cleared my energy around my issue with smoking…clearing PAST his smoking…all I saw was this perfect dad who like everyone else only wants to love and be loved in return. What a huge gift he gave me. I for sure see smoking very differently now.

When you think back to the past week over the Christmas season, what was something that caused you to be bothered?  My issue had to do with smoking…was there something that caused you to be bothered creating a screen for you?  It could have been different habits that you may find offensive, like drinking, overeating, drugs, etc; different things, like not getting presents from your parents, your family not showing up for supper or how no one helped you clean up.  Instead of the word smoking, substitute the something you got caught up in, which took you to a place of not feeling good.

When you look PAST the something you got caught up in, what is left?

Your thoughts precede your feelings.  Your thoughts determine where you are or where you are not in any moment of time.  What do I mean by that?

There is a difference between thoughts and thinking.  Thinking – consider this…in this present moment, if someone came up to you and asked you to do something, you would think about whether or not you would do it.  The process majority of people go through involves thinking about the request, making a decision or saying they will ‘think about it’.  Thinking comes from the mind and the mind isn’t always acting in your best interests.

If your mind isn’t always acting in your best interests, how do feelings come into play?  Going back to the example of someone coming up to you asking you to do something, you think about the request, then you stop thinking about it and feel if what they asked is something you want to do.  Does it feel right to you?  This can take seconds to decide in the moment based on how you feel about doing or not doing what they ask.

Let’s go in a different direction now.  Thoughts – your thoughts about the problems going on at work or thoughts about not wanting to talk to your mom or dad or thoughts about not having enough money to pay your bills.  Where are those kinds of thoughts taking you? Are you still in the present moment or are you off somewhere worrying or wondering?

When you think and think and think about something that’s not there, so to speak, you are creating a picture and your ‘feelings’ will be reflected based on those thoughts.

You see, your thoughts can take you to a place of not feeling great or feeling bothered…and your thoughts can take you to a place of non-reaction or being at peace within yourself.  There is no judgement, no right or wrong. Becoming aware of your thoughts and/or thinking is a wonderful place to start because everyone is learning and growing with every moment.

When you think, you can think and go into a thinking loop of problem after problem taking into account the ‘what if’s’ and the ‘I should have’s’ OR you can think for seconds, stop thinking and move into a place of feeling if something is right for you.  Then there is one more option of just experiencing every moment without having to think at all.  Is that where we are headed….hummm?

What do you feel brings about a more peaceful present moment?

One issue in my face right now is ‘telling people what I think they should do’.  Do you ever do that…tell people what you think they should do?  I’m talking about these kinds of examples…when your husband feels drawn to go the bank at 10:30am and you stop him saying he should go later when you think it would be best; your children want to take a night class and you talk them out of it because they should maybe get a job first then think about classes; your friend wants to buy a special gift for their friend and you talk them out of it.  What about the times you ‘talk yourself out of doing something?’ You are in the grocery store and you really feel like buying butter but you don’t because you think you have lots at home (you get home and there is no butter).  Have you ever done that?  What did you observe from your experiences?

Think about not trying to change someone’s decision.  Do you find that easy to do?  If you need to say something is what you have to say for their benefit or for yours?  When you want to change someone is it so they feel better or so you feel better?  You can’t change someone but you can change how you feel about someone. What you feel is in your energy.  What is causing you to get someone to change so you feel better?  Where do you have to make the changes so you feel at peace inside?

There is a lot of effort in trying to ‘make’ people do what you want them to do.  There is a lot of effort when fighting the process of going inside and resolving whatever may be causing you to react! There is no effort in being at peace with whatever is going on around you.

When people take the ‘judgement, bother or reaction’ out of anything and everything….what is left?  Think about that for a minute….when you remove your ‘judgements, bothers or reactions’ from someone or something…what is left?  It is within yourself where you will find peace.  How will you know?

Self empowerment comes from within! From within you will find your intuitive sense which is your inner knowing. You will best feel and work with that intuitive sense when you are in an empowered place where you do not have any reaction to what is going on around you. You then can observe and act if you choose, from that place of what feels right to you. As you go about your day to day life, you can start to observe where you are bothered about things. What is really causing you to be bothered? The answer to that question will be found within. Your answer will be about you and what you are feeling about what is going on. You can’t change people around you but you sure can change how you feel. You will always be rewarded as you move through your bothers and live life from a place of that inner knowing of what feels right to you.

Self Empowerment is one word in a collaboration of sharing for a larger project! The Evolutionary Business Council is made up of amazing thought leaders who are spreading prosperity and empowerment globally. Appreciation…forgiveness…magnificance…manifesting…negotiation…vibrant…power of choice…creation…inspire…army…asset…compassion…choice-control…expansion…freedom are some of the other words my fellow leaders have much to share about. They are sharing amazing wonderful insights as we collectively and collaboratively all work towards making a difference in the world. As each one shares I’m excited to share with you. The world is brighter because we are all a part of it….each one of you makes the day complete. Wishing you all the very best!

You often hear me talk about messengers who have messages for us. One showed up today with an interesting message. A very good friend of mine, Larry Koftinoff, shared this in his weekly newsletter and I wanted to share it with you…this is the section he wrote about the ego. You may find his writing opens a door in becoming aware of what we may not be aware of:

“Love is demanding. It demands that you forsake the ego… the stories… the illusions… all discriminating thought must be surrendered. The ego creates a barrier or a veil that between you and reality as it is. The ego finds its work in continually interpreting reality… always finding ways to distort the truth… always wanting to be elsewhere than where it finds itself. Its nature is that of a commentator… always analyzing the experience and trying to distort what is. It will tell you that “mmm… you like this” or “you don’t like that” or “I hate my job” or “I wish I would lose some weight”…. never quite satisfied with what is… always wanting to comment.

The ego is quick… before you even realize it has coloured your perception of an experience… it has done its quick work and contaminated the experience… it has come in because your nature of patterned experience has allowed it.

Think of the ego like a servant… standing at the gateway to your heart and allowing in only a small percentage of truthful experience. Some say that it could be as little as 5%… as one awakens… it slowly gets up to 10, 20 30 ,40% and more. This servant is doing its job… analyzing at light speed every action, every perception, every emotion, every experience and then it will compare it to its data banks and spit out a commentary before we realize any of this is going on.”

Can you relate to what Larry has shared? Can you relate to the commentator inside who is so quick to ‘judge’ whatever is or isn’t happening around us? The ‘judging’ is part of the reactions.

As you go about your weeks ahead, start to notice what your commentator may be saying. Every day brings about opportunities to learn and grow. There is no good nor bad, right or wrong. We start from where we are now and move forward with awareness.

Our family went out for breakfast Sunday morning and shared in the story of the visit to the museum. Brittany asked me if Calli was affected by the dinosaur display.  I connected to the energy and started to share that Calli wasn’t initially bothered by the display but was very much affected by the energy that was being ‘projected onto her’.  I explained that whoever was standing to her back right side was ‘projecting a fear’ about how children would be scared once they started to hear the loud scary sounds the dinosaurs made.  Brittany confirmed to the back right side was a lady who was concerned about the little children and how they may react when the roars of the dinosaurs started.  Brittany also works with energy and could feel what I was picking up allowing her to see what the change in Calli’s behaviour was reflecting.

If you become aware of a change where you notice your children are ‘reacting’ in some way, what is causing the reaction?  I ask you that question to share with you there are many elements involved when reactions surface.  What are the ‘reactions’ highlighting as the underlying issue? This story is about a child but not only directed at the learning for children.

Any time there is a change in behaviour where someone is bothered in some way, the behavioural change will not be coming from something physical as much as it will be coming from something non-physical, which would be energy.

Think about something that you are afraid of…afraid of hurting someone or giving the wrong impression, for example.  How would you feel if that happened?  How would you feel if you saw someone else do that?   Knowing what that would feel like to you, would you make an effort to make sure no one had to experience that?

Using the example with Brittany, will every child walking through the door to the dinosaur display be scared of the loud roaring noises? Could a person who has fears around children being scared be bothered when children come in for the first time? Becoming aware of the feelings involved and the energy around those feelings will make a huge difference in resolving the changes in behaviour.

All I am showing you are the feelings of people can easily be projected onto others. Becoming aware of this reality will make all the difference when you go to do something.  How do you feel…is it your fear or their fear? Is it your bother or their bother?  Where the projection comes in is ‘thinking’ that the children will be scared or another person will be hurt.  Will they be?

It has been my experience, whining and snivelling doesn’t work when talking to a loans officer.  Batting my eyes doesn’t work anymore when trying to get out of a parking ticket. The paying money thing does still have merit at times!  I don’t think I’m alone when it comes to having to change the way I do things.

There is more to ‘getting what you want’ than meets the eye.  Your energy plays a huge part in determining the outcome of any situation.  If you ‘expect to get what you want’, people will feel it.  If you have any hesitation with what you want, people will feel that hesitation and uncertainty.  Believe it or not, they may not know you are feeling hesitant but they will sense something ‘doesn’t feel right’ about going ahead with the deal.

Yes, your energy communicates louder than you know.  You only have to become aware of what you are feeling, become real with those feelings and then move into a place of clearing the blocks that are preventing you from getting what you want.  Now that you are grown up, there are wonderful new strategies available for you to consider.  What has worked for you?

Are you aware that you can access any information you need, get any answer you need, when you need it?  It is as easy as asking, and then being open to how the information may come to you.

If the Universe wanted to give you information in response to your questions or request for guidance, how do you feel it would come to you; what would you expect?  Information comes through many forms and one common form is actually the people in your every day life. Those people may have the information you are looking.

There will be times when someone lets you know there is a phone call for you or lets you know you are required to attend a meeting.  There will be times when your information is addressed specifically for you and comes right to you, like your mail delivery for example. What about the times the Universe has information for you and that information isn’t specifically addressed to you. How would you know it was for you? 

To give you an example, if you wanted to find a tutor for your child, you may ask your family or friends if they know of someone. If they don’t know of a tutor, you may go about your days wondering who you could get.  Then one day you are standing in the supermarket waiting to pick up some fruit when all of a sudden the gentleman next to you is talking to a lady about the best tutor he has ever worked with.  Does that gentleman have some information for you?  That can be one way showing you how the Universe works to give you the information you are looking for.

In your day to day life, the Universe aligns everything in divine perfection for your learning and growing.  It communicates in ways that you will understand.  You only have to be open to what those ways may be for you. 

What are the ways you continue to get your information from the Universe?

You know in any moment of time if all of a sudden you feel sick or if you are bothered about what someone says or does.  You know in any moment of time when something doesn’t feel right and its time to make a move.  You know in any moment of time if something changes within you or about you.  All you have to do is become aware.  That awareness opens the door to feeling self empowered.

Why would you want to be your own leading authority?  Have you ever noticed how people readily give you advice on what they think you should and shouldn’t do to resolve your problems?  You see, those people may feel it’s easy for you to do what they suggest, but they are not in your shoes; they don’t know all your fears or all your failures or all your bothers; they have not walked the life you have nor can they.  You are the one who can know how the people, things or situations link together giving you your learning and growing opportunities.  You are with you 24/7/365 and know everything about you.

Every person has issues to deal with because every person is growing in some way.  Your issues and problems are for you to grow through not for someone else to do it for you.  No one can do your inner work for you.  Everyone will have to deal with some issues that money can’t buy or fix.  So if you have to be the one to count on, if you have to be your own leading authority…where can you begin to make a change in your life to feel more empowered on the inside?